How To Tell Your Mom You Need Space

This article appears online at Bustle.

Just because you’ve moved out of the house or are an adult, that doesn’t mean your relationship with your parents and family is going to suddenly become easy or simple. In fact, in our 20s especially, it becomes difficult to define what our adult relationship with our family will be once we’re out of the house and out of our parents’ pockets. Figuring that out isn’t always pretty, but don’t worry — we’ve got you covered. Michael Y. Simon, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, educator, and author is here to answer your family advice questions. All questions will remain anonymous, so if you have a query, gripe, or something you’d simply like to share, please send your family inquiries to

Now, on to this week’s question:

Q: My mom and I have always been really close. Like, talk every-other-day close. But lately, I’m feeling like I need some space to become my own person. She doesn’t seem to get the hint when I don’t return her calls, and even seems hurt, which makes me feel guilty. How do I establish a different sort of relationship with her without making her feel rejected? And how do I even know what the appropriate boundaries are now that I’m in my 20s?

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